How To Create Your Own Sacred Moment Vows

Posted by David Trumble on November 13, 2009

Your dream special day is just over the horizon. There are so many things you want it to be. Your passion for your partner grows stronger every day. You want your sacred moment to be spectacular – one of a kind lifetime event. One of the ways to make it truly special is by learning how to write your own special day vows.

You may be thinking that your minister already has the sacred moment ceremony locked up. You may feel hesitant to mess things up trying to compose your own wedding vows or trying to make your special day ceremony special. Relax, couples do it all the time. Ministers are usually quite willing to work with you to insure your sacred moment vows communicate our special character .

To begin, what should you avoid? As you author your special day vows, stay away from wordiness. Words should communicate, they should not just string along one word after another after another. No one will appreciate an endless monologue even if it does express your own character .

Bad English can be embarrassing. So avoid awkward wording and phrasing. If your own proper English skills are lacking, get help.

Finally, avoid wildly extreme ideas. Keep in mind that you are planning and launching your marriage. Expressing fundamentally inappropriate ideas in your special day vows can have a disastrous impact on your marriage and relationships with others. Avoid the radical and extreme.

Now that you know what to avoid, what steps do you need to take to write your own wedding vows and make them truly special expressing your own personality in a way that you can take great pride?

Start listing all of those things that make your bond special. List the things you share in terms of activities, pleasures, philosophies, values, ideals; anything and everything that reflects you mutual personality . As a couple, who are you? Take as much space as you need to really identify what makes your lives together special. Your reasons may be the same or there may be some significant differences.

Having identified the qualities that reflect your relationship, now write down the reasons you intend to get married. Yes, answer the question, “Why are you getting married?” You might be tempted to gloss over this a bit, but take time to make your lists thorough. Include every reason you have. Once you complete your individual reason lists, share them to find what reasons truly apply.

With your lists in hand and in mind, begin reading several sample special day vows. Examine them for the ideas they convey, the values, and priorities they express. Make notes to help you remember the ones that speak to you and the ones that you just do not like. It can get overwhelming to study loads of wedding ceremonies, but you will quickly see similarities and even repetition.

A professional author, your minister, or a trusted friend proficient in English grammar may be willing to take your notes and lists and author your special day vows for you. You have identified the things that are unique about your relationship. You have zeroed in on your reasons for wanting to get married. You have made notes on your likes and dislikes in conventional vows. All that is left is having someone put it together in acceptable form. You still have the right to review, edit, embellish, or approve the end result.

Of course, you can still author your own wedding vows to express your own personality . You have all the tools at your disposal. You have your list of distinctive qualities and traits. You have your unique reasons for wanting to get married. You have reviewed, studied, and taken notes on dozens of sample special day vows. You are now ready to do the composing .

This may seem to be an overwhelming task, but you can fairly quickly write your own special wedding vows and express your own character doing so. Some trial and error may be needed, but relax and enjoy the process. Read your creation aloud. Listen as someone else reads. Keep working on your wedding vows until you are confident they express your uniqueness in a meaningful and effective manner.

Finally, when you are ready. Have your minister review your creations. He may make a few suggestions or he may approve it on the spot. In any case, your minister will insure that what you have written will be suitable for the special day ceremony.

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